unanswerable despressing topic that goes nowhere

missing girl a 'porn star'

so i just read that story: a young girl that does DIY porn on the internet, and why the hell not, well she goes home with some older guy she just met from a bar. she ends up a missing person; his motel room is found all bloody. ughhhh. so of course everyone says or thinks tsk, tsk, don't go home with strangers, slut. but god, that could have been me (back in my "slut phase" of course!) or one of my friends. i know i have found myself in ...questionable situations.

the fact of the matter is that guys simply do not have to worry about being possibly raped or killed when going home with a girl from the bar for a one night stand. it's so depressingly true that despite everything that feminism has done for us (we can go to school! we can vote! we can climb the corporate ladder too, hooray!) that we cannot be equals in this way. we walk home drunk holding mace in the dark, looking hot but not too hot because then you're asking for it, god, this is bullshit.

This is a fucking PROBLEM and it seems to be getting worse, or else the media just wants to scare us indoors, or both.

I don't get rape, I'll never understand how so many men have it in them to rape, and how in many men sex and violence are so intertwined. And what about rape fantasies and why so many women have them yet find the idea in real life repulsive, like some cruel trick nature is playing on us all, what do you do with all this?

I just don't know what to think or feel about porn. I get this urge to take a stance on it, but I can't. Considering most men look at porn, and I look at porn sometimes, and we enjoy it together and are able to separate it from reality; but on the other hand most women in porn are victims of sexual abuse in the past, the porn industry is getting noticeably more violent and misogynistic, and it encourages men to look at women as FUCKING OBJECTS. But then I can understand women kind of wanting to be porn stars and getting pleasure out of men jerking off to them, and that they should be able to do so without being judged, but then again they are perpetuating the whole 'objectify me please' thing, so yeah.......

so why are people not trying to find a solution for the root of the problem, or an end to the cycle of sexual violence again?

oh, phantom audience, here's another story

depressing as fuck this will make you cry maybe